Yesterday morning, after a brief break, I discovered that my badge was no longer allowing me into my office. Upon inquiring at the guard desk, I was told that my building access had been revoked because I was no longer an employee (?!?), whereupon the guards confiscated my work ID.

A few frantic calls later, my supervisor learned that a certain administrator had filed an undated “separation notice” with my name on it. Security then deactivated my badge.

By the time we managed to convince security there had been a mistake and that I really should be allowed into the building — in all likelihood the notice was meant for an intern with the same name — they had sent in my badge for destruction. Now I need to get a piece of paper from the administration person who filed the separation notice saying that, no, I AM a valid employee so I can get a new ID. Oh, joy.

Since we have no idea when this certain administrator will be available — she has been out all week — my supervisor has told me to work from home until we can reach her. Hey, life isn’t all bad ….

My son, A.J., during a family vacation to Yellowstone National Park in 2009

Back then, I never had to take off work to attend a school play or worry about how to occupy a 7-year-old during a two-month summer break from school. I never had to scramble at 5 a.m. to negotiate child care because snow closed local schools but not my office.

I used to be able to spend my evenings socializing with friends or relaxing at home rather than reviewing my son’s homework. I used to sleep as late as I liked on the weekends rather than getting up before 8 a.m. to feed my son and drive him to extracurricular activities. I used to be able to go on vacation whenever my husband and I liked rather than being tied to our son’s school schedule.

Life was simpler back then, and sometimes I really miss those days. But most of the time I appreciate the wonders of having brought someone into the world and watching him grow into his own person. I love seeing my son’s mischievous smile and answering his questions on everything from biology and weather to the rules of the road and the budget deficit. I like how he sings in the shower and hugs me at bedtime.

Despite all the scheduling challenges, I enjoy being a parent. And work is going well, too!

This post is part of the Fem 2.0 Blog Carnival on Work-Life hosted by About Working Moms.

The cul-de-sac at 5:45 a.m.

A.J.’s school is opening two hours late this morning due to the one inch of snow we have on the ground this morning. Work is, of course, opening on time. Good thing Chris is off today.

Successfully Managing the Work/Life Juggling Act

If you have a family, managing work and life can be challenging — and often unpredictable.

Consider the following tips to help you successfully manage the work/life juggling act:

• Make time for fun and relaxation. When you add more leisure to your life, you’ll become a healthier and more effective employee and parent.

• Build and use support systems. People with strong support systems tend to be healthier, happier and better able to tolerate stress.

• Forget perfection. While it’s admirable to put your best efforts into your work and parenting responsibilities, it’s simply impossible to be perfect at everything you do.

• Take care of yourself. It’s easy to focus on your responsibilities to your partner, children and employer and forget about taking care of yourself.

• Be happy. Studies show that happy individuals are successful across different areas, including marriage, friendship, income, work performance, and health.

I’m not exactly sure how one can will oneself to “be happy” — does this newsletter mean “try to think positive”? But otherwise, these tips seem pretty sound.

Hmm, wonder what else I’ll find as I continue decluttering the house ….

On this first “Thankful Thursday,” I have many, many things that are going well in my life. I have a great family and fantastic friends. Everyone in my immediate family is in good health; my parents, who are in their 70s, are on a trip spanning East Asia and Latin America right now. I have a job I know how to do well that pays me a lot of money and provides great health insurance, gobs of vacation time and sick leave, and intellectual stimulation. Four days a week I work in a sunny corner of the office building that, due to its location, gives me a measure of privacy despite being a cubicle. On Thursdays I get to work from the comfort of my home.

Today, specifically, I am thankful that my sister-in-law has volunteered to host our family for Thanksgiving, thus providing us with a great meal without my having to clean the house or cook anything! (I am bringing homemade chocolate chip-banana bread, though.)

Thanksgiving Dinner 2009: white meat turkey, broccoli salad, green beans, corn pudding, carrot salad, mashed potatoes, gravy, cranberry sauce, dark meat turkey, ham, deviled eggs

Well, perhaps that’s not quite accurate. What I think is happening is that I’m beginning to censor myself. I’ll read about something and think, “That’s interesting!” But then I’ll say to myself, “My blog entry has to be about democracy, human rights, or government. I can’t see how this fits with any of those topics.” At other times I’ll think, “I wrote about that already; I shouldn’t repeat myself.”

I wonder if these concerns are really important, though. Why not let the blog facilitator decide if a potential blog entry is too tangential? So far my track record has been excellent; I’ve had only one blog entry rejected as too far off-topic. True, it was annoying to have all the time I spent writing that piece wasted, but perhaps I should trust myself more. And what’s wrong with going back to an issue and exploring a different angle or looking at it in more depth? The way the blog is structured, with different writers taking turns, it might be fine to write on a specific theme for a while and have some continuity.

One complication with the blog is that I don’t exactly know when a specific blog entry will be posted. This has made me reluctant to write anything time-sensitive. But I suppose scheduling is really the job of the blog facilitator, not mine. My job is to write.

But I still don’t know what to write about this week ….

Started the morning by attending Merrill Perlman’s session on “brain speed bumps.” She presented several stories that contained mistakes and asked the audience to find them. I had a terrible time with every single one of the exercises and am thoroughly embarrassed. I hope that the problem was that I wasn’t quite awake at that hour rather than that I’ve lost my edge as an editor! 

Perlman gave a list of things that should set off alarm bells for editors and indicate that something should be double-checked in a story:

– Coincidence
– Internal inconsistency
– Repetition
– Superlatives and modifiers

She also advised editors always to check names, foreign languages, and things that are often corrected in their own publications. Perlman also warned that errors often travel in pairs.

BLOGGING ETHICS

The second morning session I attended was titled “Blogging Ethics,” and featured Bryan Murley of Eastern Illinois University, David Sullivan of the Philadelphia Inquirer, and Bill Walsh of the Washington Post.

Murley started off by comparing blog entries with print articles. Blogs entries, he said, are written in a personal style, are shorter than news articles, include hyperlinks to other stories, are narrowly focused, and can contain multimedia such as videos or audio clips.

Murley said copy editors can help bloggers by:

– authenticating links
– editing copy before it goes live
– “adding to the link economy” (giving primary sources to draw readers back to the piece)
– gauging comments
– tracking online conversations about a topic

Murley also discussed Twitter. Twitter is a conversation, he said; do NOT dump your RSS feed into Twitter. Instead, manually post selected items on Twitter with headlines written to lure readers, and engage people on Twitter in conversations. (Julio Ojeda-Zapata also made this point in the “Twitter for Journalists” session yesterday.)

Bill Walsh talked about his own experiences writing The Slot, a blog about errors he finds in copy. He noted that bloggers write about things in which they are interested, and often they are unofficial experts in the subject. This is in contrast to regular reporting, in which writers are sometimes assigned stories about which they know nothing.

David Sullivan discussed workflow. How can publications feed Twitter and update blogs quickly while ensuring the accuracy and fairness of the material being published?  These things don’t go through the normal editing process, but there still needs to be some sort of editorial review for them before they go live.  Sullivan also brought up the difference between objectivity and fairness. People have their own opinions about everything; it is part of human nature. We cannot really be objective. But we should always try our best to be fair in our coverage.

Other topics discussed included how to handle blog comments and whether to notify readers when a story on the Web has been changed.